IT is really hard. If you talk about things that happened long ago , it sometiiiimes triggers their memnoy.. MUSIC HELPS TOO

I think it’s difficult not to be negative. This is a horrible disease. I’m suffering from anticipatory sadness. I want to enjoy this time while my husband is still doing well but I can’t seem to shake this. Memories make me cry. Pictures make me cry. I want to go back to the days when we had nothing to worry about. I know. Everyone does. But for the first time in my life, it’s overwhelming consuming on my life. Does it just take time to accept this or is it always going to be this way?

You just have to live in his world. Who does he think you are? My wife thinks I am just some nice guy yet she sleeps in the same bed as me (usually). Be calm and supportive as best you can. Be the person he thinks you are. Sadly the old relationship you had with him is probably gone.

I think this is one of the hardest things to accept. That and not knowing who you are. I think that only time helps to accept this situation and the loneliness it brings. For me because I already watched my mother go through this it has been easier to accept the changes. I try to focus on the happy memories and just get through the day. We are at the point there are not any good days and I am happy if there are a few hours/minutes a day when we can communicate and I see a little of his old personality. Sorry to be so negative

He still knows who I am. Right now it’s just his memory. Short term mostly but sometimes mixed up long term time lines. But I miss the strong determined brilliant person I fell in love with. He was diagnosed with MCI years ago but it wasn’t until his heart issue and subsequent pacemaker implant that things started to get worse. He’s 75 now and I’m 63. But before this happened last year, he always seemed younger then me. Im having a hard time accepting that our old relationship is changing.