Stop the anger.
Write a note and put it on the dishwasher. Get it fixed.

Love yourself and her through.

Trust Jesus

As a former teacher, this was most difficult to deal with. I now see my husband as a toddler that cannot learn. His sister was a former special education teacher and she has helped me to realize these limitations. It will not get better and there is no point arguing. Makes you feel a little like a stepped on rug, but it is easier than trying to change the behavior.

I would just say oops I forgot and move on. Arguing about who did will get you know where, in her mind she is right and that's it. I found trying to point out the things that my MIL did wrong just gave me stress. I hope this helps HUGS to you both

EXACTLY, a toddler. My background in early education has helped

I also do that but it is still frustrating.