My husband was a veteran and the VA gave me a stipend each moth for being his caretaker. (Imagine that, I am his wife, I would have cared for him anyhow.) I was able to pay a caretaker to spend a coupe hours a week with him so I could get out of the house for time of my own.
If you haven’t checked with the VA call them and see what help you can get.

I think they give wonderful care. All of Clyde Drs are great, & very caring. VA is better run the last few years. We never get a bill, when he had ins. they used it. Now they cover everything. He's lucky, they He served in 3 branches,

VA benefits are not uniform, everything depends on your enlistments, duty/war time, injury/what % and biggest of all it is means tested. If you're well off financially you generally do not qualify. My husband retired at 21 years as an Warrant Officer, he got no VA benefits for his residential memory care. (He had retirement pay, and SSA benefits) He passed away on June 10, 2024

Very important information for anyone thinking that they or their spouse may be eligible for VA benefits. Naples FL has a local office where you can go in with your information and start the process to determine eligibility. Do it the earlier the better as the process takes many months.

In order to qualify for benefits through the VA, there are some specific service, asset, income and medical requirements that must be met. Not everyone qualifies.
AARP issued an excellent article very recently, that is worth reading:
https://www.aarp.org/home-family/voices/veteran...

VA Long-Term Care Benefits for Veterans

https://www.aarp.org/home-family/voices/veterans/info-2020/va-aid-attendance-benefit.html