Anyone that has to make this decision probably feels a lot of guilt. My wife got violent in the hospital. The hospital would only release her to a memory care facility. So the decision was made for me. But, that didn’t lessen the guilt. It was over a year before she acclimated to the situation. I visit 5 times a week. Good luck.

My brother and I have been experiencing this for 10 months. Our parents have been married for 75 years. Mom has later stage dementia and dad is just very frail. Mom got the virus and was hospitalized for over a week then sent to a nursing home to rehab. In the nursing home she fell and broke her hip. Surgery and anesthesia made her dementia really worsen. Dad couldn’t live alone without her so they are both in the nursing home together. However mom just wants to go home even though she doesn’t know where home is. She gets very argumentative at times and redirecting doesn’t work. One of us is always with them until bedtime. A very hard cross to carry but many others have it worse. Praying for us all.

I am also guilt ridden .. I posted in early Sept about my loved one going into a Memory Unit.. My daughters flew in to help set up his room and delivering him to the community. The following day he fell a few times and the day after he he fell again and they sent him to the local hospital.. At that time he tested positive for Covid. I tested my self and was also positive. I have no idea where I could have picked it up . They kept him 4 days and sent him back to Memory care to be kept in his room .. He fell again being confused and was sent back to the hospital where he spent 7 more days . He was asymptomatic as far a the virus was concerned but stopped eating and refused his meds.. He was transferred to a Rehab center when he was released. The morning of his 3rd day I got a call from the Nurse Practitioner saying he was still not eating or taking his meds so Rehab would not be able to keep him with any expectations of helping strengthening him . So… Is it Failure to thrive ? The remnants of the Covid ?.. The body just shutting down ? She suggested he be evaluated by Hospice and be moved to long term nursing care . I have visited him daily and it breaks my heart .. I am at a loss…

Absolutely guilt-ridden and heartbroken when it had to be done. My mom has been in MC for 6 months and AL the prior 14 months. She never wanted to leave her home and still asks though not every day when she will go home. The days she does are the worst but I know in my heart she is where she is safest and is able to get the most attention. I visit almost daily and hope the day will come when I can stay away for a week and not feel guilty. These feelings don’t help our loved ones and probably make us less capable of good decision making but knowing something, feeling something, and doing something about it are completely different. We all just do the best we can. You know you are acting in her best interest and that is all that matters.