I think "transition trauma" is one of the reasons I left it so long before applying fir the memory home....although his memory and thoughts are more confused these days. I'm not sure he recognizes me as his wife anymore....just one of the caregivers. But I know it is time as my own health is suffering.

The good thing is the home us only 19 minutes away and I can visit him alot.

That's a pretty hard question to answer. But try and do it delicately as much as possible. Maybe you should include the doctor when telling him or her about this situation.

Going for a ride and try and tell them what is going to happen and go from there . Make sure you make it their room with all there belongings. Make it as comfortable as you can. Things they are used too seeing.

I moved my mom from Assisted Living to memory care. One of the most difficult days. I told her we were going to look at a new place. The reality was that we were moving that moment. She would not have remembered and knowing would have caused stress. When I had to leave her at the new place to move her things she cried. It was harder than leaving a child at daycare.

I am getting ready to place my spouse in a nice assisted living/memory care for a 10 day respite so I can go see my daughter in NYC. It will be the first time he is away from me. Luckily family will visit him while I am gone. It is a trial. I dread the day I have to do a permanent placement. He knows me but is so forgetful that I now have to take care of everything. I really need this vacation/rest. I know he will be well taken care of, but I still worry.