This may be a strange analogy, but bear with me - If you had purchased a house, and you loved that house and invested a lot of money and time in decorating it beautifully and your neighbors were fabulous and all of the things you needed were nearby, but suddenly all those things went away and all your furniture was stolen and a freeway went in right below your bedroom window, you might consider moving, and that would be okay. The most important thing is that your loved one is in a place that they are well cared for, their physical and emotional needs are met and the staff understands that they are part of team made up of you and them together. If that criteria is not met and you have the resources to change their location to a place that would be better, you should do it! ALZ isn’t in anyone’s plans and it changes the choices we have to make! Just my two thoughts - sending hugs and support!❤️

Just one more thing - my Mom’s neurologist has always emphasized the need to stay active and engaged as a way to keep the disease at bay. It may not prevent the disease progressing completely, but it may let your loved one have more good days than bad for a while!❤️

You can contact the ombudsman office for recommendations. You have the capacity to file a compliant if you feel your moms care is compromised. It’s Anonymous.

Check w your Area Office on aging for recommendation but ask if you were to have your loved one in a memory care facility which one would you chose for your mother? Tricky way to ask question but get best answer.

Also get referral for a senior placement agency they can recommend better Memory facilities. They get a percentage commission from the assisted living when they get a placement.

Kris I understand your concern. When I was looking at memory care facilities for my mom my mental checklist as I toured them was observing care given by staff to residents, do the residents seem content, safety measures in place, overall cleanliness, services provided. Depending on her level of progression smaller might soot her better. I went with a smaller facility as there is less unneeded ‘stuff’ around that could cause confusion. Ultimately you need to make the decision where she will be safe, well taken care of and is content.

Rebekah,
Thank you for that. Your analogy was spot on. It's a tough decision. Your thoughtful insight and analogy was/is/will be very helpful as I take a final look at other communities in the area and make a decision. I really do appreciate it.

Thank you.