My Mother In Law Who Is 84 Has Dementia And Is Still Driving. Her Husband Does Not Want To Be The One To Tell Her Not To Drive.
He has not made ant effort to have her Dr tell her either. I'm worried it will take her getting in a wreck or completely lost before anything gets done.
In NSW Aust we can contact the Dept of Motor transport which will then call her in for a test. Maybe go talk to her Dr about this as its so dangerous. We didnt act soon enough with my Mum and she went though a red light into another vehicle which went into a another...............acting on our intuition soon would of prevented it. As it turned out Mum gave up her licence after the accident. .......as her then husband was the only one badly hurt. Mum was bruised terribly from the seat belt. Still wish we had acted sooner instead of just worrying about it. hugs
The issue with driving is that at any time they can get lost and not know how to get where they are going. My x-mother-in -law. Left her house one day and ended up 100 miles away and out of gas and in another town. By luck some one called me. I went and got her. I had taped a card on the dash with information to get help things like Name situation. and numbers to call for help. Otherwise she could of been in real trouble. Take the keys away and offer to take her where she needs to go. and just take her for a ride when you can.
I had to go to the doctor and ask for help . I sent in a written note first and explained how confused she was and that I felt it was just a matter of time before she hurt herself or some one else . I then took her in to see him and he explained she could no longer drive . She still asks where her car is ? But now she is safe
At first the driving thing was a nightmare. We put a GPS via Motosafety and tracked his every movement.. It evens grades them. We were firm on taking the keys and just did battle about him not driving.. Several times my dad has driven his John Deere tracker to McDonalds -- Thru the drive-thru and they served him! We would take him to empty parking lots to let him drive. Now he asks about the keys but not with the same passion. Take the keys!
The day my husband was diagnosed, the Dr recommended he not drive anymore. Not because he couldn't but because of the liability. She said if he was involved in an accident, even if he was not at fault, they could get his medical records & we could be sued. He hasn't driven since 2010 & it has never bothered him, until recently. He keeps asking for a car!
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