No, not crazy at all. I think we all do it. We feel cast adrift without our partner, fill the time with a little too much activity so as not to dwell on how we're feeling, end up exhausted and collapse for a couple of days.

@A myALZteam Member, I'm so sorry - that must be desperatelyworrying.
Yes, we need to look after ourselves. We're no use to our LOs if we fall apart. x

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@A myALZteam Member, my love, it's so hard but...
My husband lives here in our house and tells me daily that he wants to go home. My mum did the same wherever she was. "I want to go home" is, I believe, them expressing their feelings of confusion. "Home" represents a safe place. Even when they're in their own home, they don't feel entirely safe because they're confused and have forgotten or don't recognise the place that is "home". Trust me - your partner would be saying that wherever he was.
We used to tell Mum that she'd be able to go home when she was well enough, but she wasn't very well right now so she needed the nurses to look after her. It helped some of the time.

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It takes real courage to say, "We need professional care and support" and to accept it. You have made the best decision for you and your LO.
In my experience (mum spent 7 years in care), care homes these days can be wonderful, loving, laughter-filled places. My mum was safe and happy, and the staff took her to their hearts. They didn't just look after her - they looked after us as a family. I truly hope you have as good an experience with the home you have chosen.

It is worrying as he has had 6 seizures in the last 12 months..at least this time the medication was changed. I was okay at the time but goodness the looking after, stress and emotion certainly caught up with me.
Definitely need to take care of ourselves...very important.
Thank you for being there.