Thanks, Amy, I will look up both again. The presumptive diagnosis is Alzheimer's and Mum has many of the signs, but her brain scans were negative, which is often the case with Alzheimer's as the plaques may not show up until after death (if autopsied). But I will look at the frontal temporal lobe dementia again. Thanks for the suggestion....and for the support !

Do you know that Alzheimer's is the correct diagnosis? That sounds very much like the behavior you see with FTD - Frontal temporal lobe dementia. Definitely get a Neuro psych evaluation. An MRI will pinpoint whether that part of her brain is deteriorating. If so, you'd see those abusive, horrible behaviors. My mom had it and the things that she would say and do were terrible. You and your Dad have to learn to not take it personally. Trust me, I know how difficult it is.

hello Michelle i been there my mom well be 90 and was a Sunday School Teacher but you should hear the word come of her mouth like you i use to ask why you saying words like that but Iam learning that she Dont know what she saying its the Alzheimer .in her world turn upside down some time my mom cant tell you my name cant spell all we can do is some day my mom have good weeks sometime its like ok Sun downer is here

Yes, it's really hard, isn't it, Sally? We want only to help them have the best life they can for the time they have left, but it's so painful to see the deterioration and then have it translated into this aggressive behaviour. My Dad has learned so much, has developed so much more patience and understanding, and she cannot see all that he does for her, and this is the reward. I just reassure him that it's the illness. We try to give her as much quality of life as we can in the moment. And we try to speak to her very gently and make suggestions about what she needs to do, but sometimes, we just have to tell her straight out, however gently and respectfully, and she just reacts with annoyance every time. So much more noticeable now. I'm sorry about your Mum. Hugs.

my dad is aggressive with altzheimers so has to live in a different town as it was the nearest carehome which deals with aggressiveness but personally i think hes always been aggressive when in the right .lolxxx